I’m 45 and want to reframe what society thinks about aging. Let’s focus on it in a positive way, rather than as an inevitable to be dreaded.
Are you “supposed” to be a burlesque stripper / web developer / mom of young kids at my age?
I lived in Silicon Valley (2011-2017). After the implosion of the “coding boot camp” I attended, I felt crappy about my future prospects. I’m still not sure I know what I want to be when I grow up, and that’s ok.
Most of my thoughts and mini revelations have been kept to myself over the years.
The world belongs to those of us who sincerely work to become our best selves, crafting our lives just the way we’ve always imagined. We’re in this together!
Whether it’s never giving up your Dr. Martens and unnaturally colored hair with attitude to match or deciding to have kids later in life (or not at all!), we’re aging and doing so, imperfectly.
If there was one word to describe you, what would it be? For myself at this very moment, I’d use the word unconventional.
I’d also use the words curious, misunderstood, ambitious, and offbeat.
Perhaps you’re like me. Or maybe not, but one thing we have in common is that we’re exasperated with being treated as if we have one foot in the grave.
We are redefining what it means to be older than 35 in this youth-obsessed society.
We are showing the world what it’s like to show up and be yourself, flaws, wrinkles, experiences and all. We possess a vast body of knowledge, most of us having changed careers many times.
Maybe we don’t know what we want to be when we grow up. Or maybe that’s just me?
The reality that 1980 was 40 years ago still astounds me. I remember what I was doing then but perhaps not consecutively. What were YOU doing in 1980?
Since you’re here right now, something tells me that you’re a little weary. Are you finding it hard to make new friends as a so-called adult? Me too!
Maybe it’s because you’re not ready to take any more sh*t from the people that are already in your life. Maybe some people are on the way out. Maybe you’re doing your best to “detach with love”. I’m STILL working on that and I’ll keep you posted.
I have a few core beliefs….
I believe that you’re ready for a big change, but you’re definitely not sure how it’s all going to play out.
I believe that you’re fed up with (thinly veiled or not) age discrimination, especially on the job, gig, and employment fronts.
I believe that you deserve happiness, love, and respect. It took a long time for me to realize in my own life, and I’ve made a LOT of mistakes along the way.
I believe that you’re ready to take your life to the next level, and that you appreciate the time you’ve had so far but that something’s been missing and you’re not quite sure what….
I’ve been doing “web stuff” since the 90’s and can help you quickly sort out what to do about your site and/or brand.
Fashion is my armor in order to survive the reality of everyday life, especially in these unprecedented times.
I’ve been fascinated with burlesque since 2004 and have just planted both feet back into the water this year.
I’m American – I live in the Pacific Northwest (in Portland, OR but Los Angeles is my hometown).
I describe myself as an L.A. ex-patriate. L.A. might as well be its own country and quite possibly continent. I lived there for over 30 years but took a chance and moved to Seattle (sight unseen!) in 2007 with some friends.
Anytime I entertain the thought of moving back, I lurk on the Overheard L.A. account on IG and laugh and laugh and then laugh some more. I really love L.A., BUT I’m not sure that I could ever live there again, honestly. I’ve always considered it too hot. People have the nerve to complain about traffic in Portland and Seattle, you ain’t seen nothing. I’m also a parent and I’m not sure I could raise kids in Los Angeles, although I turned out PERFECTLY FINE, ok?! 😉
I’ll never understand the California hate here in the Pacific Northwest. You’ll find me making a witty retort when challenged. I don’t like gentrification but the license plates that I happen to see here are mostly are from the Midwest and the South lately.
You should know that I’m a little more than obsessed with lingerie, pinup queens, burlesque, animal prints and faux fur.
Many people assume that I’m all about vintage.
While it does hold a special place in my heart, I’m equally inspired by avant garde, cyberpunk, and quirky things. I consider my style goth athleisure AND whatever the hell else I feel like that day. Sometimes I wake up looking like a raver on my days off and sometimes I wear donut pajamas with my Hunter rain boots. About 95% of what I wear and own has been thrifted or otherwise received secondhand.
I’m imperfect and am embracing it and I hope that you do, too. Don’t expect perfectly polished anything here! Again, welcome and I hope that you subscribe and get my upcoming posts in your inbox so that you don’t miss anything. 😉